I never know what to tell someone who is grieving from the loss of a loved one. How do you make someone feel better when someone they love has died.
No words seem appropriate, no words seem to do the trick. It is almost hopeless at that time. I just don’t know what to say… except that I know how it feels, because I lost someone to death as well, heck, I almost lost myself to it once. But that doesn’t make the pain any less.
Death is the eternal break up. We fight and we argue and we quarrel and we are bitter, and we hold grudges for years and years, and then suddenly it’s all over. And there is nothing we can do about it. Death doesn’t consider if someone loves you and they don’t want you to go. It doesn’t care if you have a million things to do before you are ready. It just takes, until nothing is left. That’s probably the most helpless we can be in this world.
But what’s amazing is that how easy it is to forget. How easy it is to completely dismiss the idea that any one of the people we hold so dear to us could be gone in the next second. How we can so quickly and eternally lose someone to something so trivial as a heart attack, a traffic accident, a senseless shooting, or even a suicide. To breathe, and not know it is your last.